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Introduction to Joshua’s Path

Welcome

As with many others, I owe significant gratitude to Dalrock, for his efforts in maintaining his blog for close to a decade (https://dalrock.wordpress.com/). His decision in January 2020 to close his site has pushed me to finally start my own.

What is the purpose of this site? Below I’ll briefly discuss the following topics, that will explain the community I hope we will create.

– Community

– Discussion of problems within our local communities

– Offer advice and suggestions

Community

God created us as beings that need community.

Genesis 2:18 – Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Hebrews 10:24-25 – 24 And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, 25 not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

Christian men need the opportunity to meet together, discuss issues that concern them, correct and exhort one another, and to connect in community. Due to problems with the typical church in Western culture, some Christian men feel unable to make this connection locally. Those who are introverts likely feel a keener need to be able to give thoughtful arguments and comments — the type of communication for which a blog can be an ideal channel.

In some ways, a connection “in real life” is far superior. Our friend who sees us and has known us for years is far more able to challenge us on areas where we need growth or in areas where we are being self-destructive or self-limiting. I can easily hide my struggles from my “virtual” friends on-line. I hope to enable readers here a chance to meet up with other readers who live nearby, should they so choose.

In some ways however, a virtual space such as this one can be very valuable. Those men who lack close friends from their local community are far better off to have community with a group of men here, than not at all. I appreciate the chance to have others give me information and challenge my views — it is not necessary for this to be done in person.

An anonymous, virtual forum also allows a man to give critics and views that are politically incorrect or contrary, with an ability to focus on giving and receiving correction, rather than on social consequences.

Discussion of problems within our local communities

It is not my intent to (regularly) complain about the problems that exist. We do however need to be willing to see the problems that exist, and understand how they differ from what is best, if we are to adapt to reality and try to change our own lives, families and communities for the better.

In addition, it can simply be helpful for us to be able to blow off steam, to verbalize that what we are seeing is foolish and destructive to our families and communities. It can be helpful to hear that others also see the problem, that you are not “the only one”.

I think Dalrock has thoroughly covered several problems already. Other than possibly providing a few links to some of Dalrock’s existing articles, I likely will not post much on these topics. These include:

– Church leaders who are more concerned with approval from their female-dominated congregations than on approval from the Chief Shepherd. I am not sure that focusing on bad examples is beneficial. I think it is better to instead point people to the Bible, and ask them to apply that wisdom to their life.

– Replacing an oath-based model of marriage with a child-support-based model of marriage.

Offer advice and suggestions

Occasionally a reader at one of the various red-pill sites would comment that, while the community is thoroughly covering the problems, no one seems to be offering solutions.

I of course am not able to offer you solutions for your life. I do not know either you, or the future, well enough to give a perfect, pre-packaged solution.

We can however seek to give advice and principles that will help each other. The best source of wisdom is God’s word, the Bible, and I will strive to present primarily that. It is my hope that we will have a regular focus on applicable wisdom.

Even where little practical advice can be given, merely having a compassionate and understanding community can be emotionally helpful.

Job 2:11-13 – 11 Now when Job’s three friends heard of all this evil that had come upon him, they came each from his own place, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite. They made an appointment together to come to show him sympathy and comfort him. 12 And when they saw him from a distance, they did not recognize him. And they raised their voices and wept, and they tore their robes and sprinkled dust on their heads toward heaven. 13 And they sat with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his suffering was very great.

Of course, once Job’s friends opened their mouths, things went down-hill quickly. That does not negate the solace we can give by listening and understanding the trials our fellow man is enduring.

To give you an idea of what is coming, here is my current plan of posts. I’ll update this list as reality imposes changes and as posts are written.

Recognize the problem

  • Our “churches” are openly disobedient. Hopefully this will be the only topic on this site where we look at the problems in the Orthodox, Protestant and Roman Catholic churches. Anyone wanting to argue about whose “church” is better or correct will be expected to use this post, and not clutter up the remainder of the posts on the site.
  • Our legal system is openly disobedient to God and to what is best for our families and communities.
  • You are openly disobedient
    • This in the most important one in this set of topics. I can control only myself.
    • What should you be – In this topic, we will have posts that look at what various Bible verses require from men in areas of money, being strong and courageous, being leaders in their families, being leaders in their communities, providing for their own family, if and how to provide for those claiming to be poor, if and how to protect the members of another man’s family, etc.
  • She (meaning the various women you might hope to marry) is openly disobedient – Admit I cannot control others. Given this, how should I respond to the disobedience of others? In particular, of the group of women from whom I wish to take a spouse?
    • What should you demand, if anything, from a woman wanting to be your wife? In particular, the demands that are shown in the Bible.
    • What kind of woman should receive your efforts?
    • Open your eyes, admit what you see, and find the right group in which to pursue a wife.
  • Your religious leaders are openly disobedient
    • Do not be surprised; Paul’s rebuke of Peter, our on-going sinful nature
    • Confront, in the hope that they will escape from the trap of the devil
    • Bear with one another in love

I ask that each reader post at least a short comment. If others see that you have participated here, it will encourage them to check back and to participate also. We cannot build community on our own.

May God bless and guide you.

JPF

P.S. Please be tolerant of my incompetent WordPress skills for now. I am more concerned with the content and our community.

Ruining a classic with feminism

So I watched the Aladdin remake from Disney over the weekend. The production quality was very good, and most of the acting/script was reasonable; there were only a few parts I found cringe-worthy.

I think they made it into a movie that is unsuitable for children however. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” It is important for parents to safeguard young children from immoral influences.
For example, I would never recommend the Disney movie, “Enchanted”, for children, or even adult women. The plot of this movie has a young woman accept a marriage proposal for one man. She then encounters a second man, and apparently falls in love with the second instead; by the end of the movie she makes the empowered decision to break her commitment to the first man, and marry the second.
And as an added bonus of disloyalty, this second man ditches the woman he had been pursuing when he met our heroine, so he could marry the first man’s fiance. And you thought Disney films were family-friendly.

This Aladdin remake had several spots promoting the feminist goals of female-leadership, at the national level. She wants to be the next Sultan (basically king). And by the end of the movie, she has of course become Sultan.

I thought they were also going to have her be the one to figure out how to get rid of the vizier. On this point I was wrong. I think this plot-point was saved by the remake’s adherence to the original movie’s plot line.

Sad thing is, with only about two minutes’ worth of script changes, I could agree this is a film worthy for their intended audience. Instead they chose to serve feminists. Not sure how many extra tickets they sold due to this choice. I think they ruined the film project however, for any parent that wants to raise their daughters to become good women, instead of attempting, and failing, to become good men.

Struggles with myself – my primary focus

In this series of posts, I intend to discuss some of the problems that affect our lives. I think bluntly and honestly acknowledging our current situation is essential to improving or safeguarding our families and communities.

There are several sources of problems that I plan to cover in this series of posts. While I had not planned to start with ourselves (as a source of problems), I do think there are a few good reasons to do so:

  • Avoiding a contentious spirit
  • Removing sin from ourselves is required
  • Focusing on myself gives the greatest effect

This post may not feel like it is directly applicable to your life today, and specifically to your efforts to overcome the consequences of our feminist culture, but I ask you to be patient. This is a foundation that will be used as we progress.

Avoiding a contentious spirit

First, I do not want to start this blog with what could be interpreted as a negative or contentious spirit — and starting off by criticizing other may do exactly that.

Titus 3:10-11 – 10 As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.

Any leader that seeks to build up himself or his listeners by tearing others down does a significant disservice. It is my hope that we can avoid this.

Removing sin from ourselves is required

If you are not a follower of Christ, then perhaps replace the religious term “sin” with “self-destructive behaviour”. While sin has greater consequences than merely the destruction it brings about in our lives and in the community around us, all sin is in fact destructive. (Anyone feel they can give an example of sin that does not demonstrably harm ourselves or our community?)

Whether you wish to live out your Christian faith, or to avoid self-destructive behaviours, removing sin from our lives is not optional. This is true regardless of the failings of others, and how those failings may be harming you.

I am sure each of us can, unfortunately, give many examples of how our own sinful or foolish choices directly harmed us. Perhaps the harm was small, but nevertheless real.

Consider a small example of laziness. When I procrastinated on my university essays, the resulting time-crunch at the end always resulted in stress. Yet I procrastinated on (almost?) every one. Why? I did roughly the same amount of work in the end. Therefore nothing was gained… apart from stress.

Focusing on myself gives the greatest effect

One of the best reasons to focus on myself and my own failings, or problems, is because this will give the most effective result. Most of us have no significant ability to control the actions of others.

An army officer, a police officer and a judge can force another into prison. A parent with a young child can physically pick up the child and forcibly carry the child away from the hot stove.

But in most of our dealings, our ability to actually control the actions of others is either limited or non-existent.

Consider a man who has legitimate problems at work. His boss is, in fact, unreasonable. Can this man alter the unreasonable rules and actions of his boss? Unlikely.

But what about his own actions? He is able to determine whether he regularly arrives late for work, whether he shows open disrespect to his boss, and whether he disobeys the instructions from his boss.

Given these facts, how should the man make an effort to improve his work life?

Perhaps it is true that the greatest part of the problem is on his boss’s side. But given the complete lack of ability to control the actions of his boss, the man would be far better served by focusing on his own contributions to the problem, small though they may be.

Even if you suggest that the man find a different job, this is still putting the focus on himself. It is his own decision and efforts that will leave to the amelioration of his work life through the acquisition of a new job.

Suppose a man finds that potential employers find him unsuitable, due to his lack of a technical diploma in the relevant field. This man could try to change the attitudes of the hiring managers. He likely has no pre-existing relationship with these hiring managers. How likely are they to care about his views on the importance of a diploma?

It may be pleasant for him to decide that the problem is entirely the fault of others, and therefore he has no need to change or improve.

But perhaps a better choice is to just get the diploma, so he can get a job. Or alter his job search to another field. Or build a portfolio of past work to prove his competence to hiring managers. All of these choices will take effort on his own part. And I suspect all would be more effective than trying to convince a hiring manager that their hiring priorities are wrong.

End notes

I am aware this post has no direct basis in Scripture. I can point to many passages that tell us to alter our own behaviour. I can also point out that, apart from specific authority relationships, we are not taught to try to control or alter other people.

The next post in this topic will be much better in this respect. For now, it would be proper for you to criticize and correct my views — a foundation of human wisdom is weak, compared to a foundation on even the “foolishness” of God.

1 Corinthians 1:25 – For the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men.

May God bless and guide you.